You're Laughing Now?

Have you mastered the art of finding humor in typically stressful situations?

I have a terrible memory. However, I remember an event from more than 15 years ago that didn't even happen to me. I was the spectator. I was in the airport at baggage claim waiting for my luggage. There was a woman with three kids traveling alone, waiting for her luggage. She had her arms full with carry-on bags and her kids were running around. As she stood there, the bottom of the paper bag that she was holding ripped and all of the contents in her bag dropped to the floor.

Did she yell at her kids?  No.

Did she fly into a rage?  No.

Did she cry?  No.

She laughed.

To this day, I remember this woman and her reaction. It stands out in my mind because it is not a reaction that would typically come from me in such a situation. Fortunately I am married to a man who has a similar temperament to the woman at the airport. A few years back, we had traveled to Northern Canada to see polar bears. We were flying out of Winnipeg and we got snowed in. I love traveling, but when it is time to go home, my mind is set on going home. Flexibility is not my strong suit. 

Because of the conditions and scarcity of outbound flights, we were pushed back two days. I was upset and stressed. I wanted to go home. While my first reaction was to whine to anyone who would listen and scheme about how I could get out sooner (though there was no hope), my husband had a different impulse. He walked right outside the airport doors and came back in with a small snowman he had made from the falling snow—the same snow that was preventing us from getting home.

This simple gesture reminded me to lighten up. There was nothing we could do, so why not make the most of it. I had a choice. I could be miserable for the next two mandatory days in Winnipeg or I could have fun. It reminded me of the woman in the airport. The bag broke. She could feel negative about it or she could just laugh at the craziness of traveling alone with three kids.

When I recounted this story to my friend, Raoul, he shared an example of his own. At the time, Raoul was battling a rare form of non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. While he was being a full-time patient, his wife, Monique, was working full-time. Her project at the time was working on succession planning for top-level leadership in the company. Strewn about her home office were presentations, white papers, and books on Succession Planning.

One day, Monique said to Raoul, "You are not allowed to die—or at least not the same year our 10-year old dogs die.” Raoul replied, "Hmmm…you're right. I should develop my own succession plan if I kick the bucket. Since we’ve been married almost 10 years, you would not be very good at dating, so let's figure out who will take my place. Tell me, what are you looking for in your next husband, and I’ll start to do a search for you."

Raoul says that this conversation led to many laughs along the way during his eight-month battle fighting cancer. They would tease about what Monique was looking for and whether, like Raoul, he had to speak Spanish and love Greyhound dogs. Raoul said that the whole journey and how they handled it together brought them closer than they had ever been in their relationship. Death was staring them in the face and they chose to laugh. And, fortunately, no succession plan was needed.

I haven't mastered the art of finding humor in typically stressful situations, but I'm working on it. How about you?


Dina Colman is a health writer and consultant. She has her MBA from Kellogg at Northwestern University and will graduate with a Master’s degree in Holistic Health Education in June 2011 from John F. Kennedy University. She founded FourQuadrantLiving.com, a website providing information on healthy living through nourishment of the four quadrants of our lives—mind, body, relationships, and environment. This blog is from the Mind quadrant. Contact Dina at dina@fourquadrantliving.com

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Laura Metzdorff May 10, 2011 at 12:57 AM
I too find it difficult sometimes to crack a smile in difficult situations. It oddly seems easier to get angry. I know the man6y benefits of a positive attitude and there really always is a silver lining, but finding it can be a task. It's interesting how some folks are just so good at it. They should teach a class or something. Have you heard of laughing yoga? Perhaps we should all gather in the park and practice that. Thanks for the post. Really enjoyed it.
Dina Colman July 19, 2011 at 01:15 AM
Thanks for the comment, Laura. Yes, I have heard of laughing yoga. We could certainly create a buzz if we gathered at a park in Walnut Creek and just started laughing! Finding humor in difficult situations is a work-in-progress for many of us. Awareness is the first step. Good luck!


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